How do I contact Hampshire Relationship Counselling?
The first step is to email me here (I will get back to you within 24 hours). l take some brief information from you in the first instance, and normally suggest arranging a suitable time for an Initial Assessment session in Overton or Kingsclere to discuss your situation in more detail. Sometimes I suggest we have a brief chat on the phone first before booking an Assessment Session.
What is an Initial Assessment?
Every client is different, but I always offer an Initial Assessment, to meet and understand more about your circumstances, difficulties and goals. This provides you with an opportunity to see if counselling feels right for you, and to think about the next steps. It’s also a chance for me to meet you and to check whether I feel I am the right counsellor for you. If the ‘fit’ doesn’t feel right for either you or me, I am happy to recommend a different therapist or counselling option that might suit you better.
How often will I need to have sessions?
Regular counselling sessions are usually weekly 50 minute appointments, at the same time each week. I can occasionally offer fortnightly appointments if this is more convenient or affordable so please do discuss this with me. I tend to work in an open ended style, with regular reviews to see how you feel you are progressing. However, I can work in a block of 8, 12 or 16 sessions if preferred.
How soon can I get an appointment? Do you work in evenings or weekends?
When we discuss counselling, I will let you know what availability I have and offer you any session times that are currently free, which is usually within 10 days of you contacting me. Please note I am unable to hold these sessions for you until you have confirmed with me that you would like to go ahead and book.
I do offer a limited number of evening weekday sessions until 8pm. I don’t work at weekends.
When I am fully booked, I keep a short waiting list of clients and can contact you when I have availability. Alternatively I am happy to recommend a different trusted therapist.
How much does counselling cost? Is the first session free?
I charge £70 (couples) and £60 (individuals) for all 50 minute sessions, including the Initial Assessment session. I can accept cash or payment via BACS transfer.
I am happy to offer a free 10 minute informal consultation via phone prior to booking an Assessment.
Payment for sessions is taken in advance of the meeting, with a 24 hour cancellation policy.
Where are you based? Do you offer online sessions?
Since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, I am exclusively offering online sessions via Zoom/FaceTime, but hope to return to offering some face to face sessions from summer 2021. However I will continue to offer online sessions for those who want them.
When I do see clients face to face, I am based in two main locations: in the beautiful village of Overton, between Basingstoke, Andover, Winchester and Newbury. There is free parking on nearby streets and good public transport links. The therapy room is in a discrete location in the centre of the village.
I also offer sessions as part of Kingsclere Counselling Service which is located between Basingstoke and Newbury. There is free parking on site.
What is the difference between relationship counselling and marriage guidance? What is couples therapy? What is psychosexual or sex therapy?
Relationship Counselling can also called Couples Therapy, Marriage Guidance, Marriage Counselling, or Relationship Psychotherapy. I tend to use the phrase ‘Relationship Counselling’ as I don’t just work with couples or people who are married. I see everyone whether they are in a long term or recent relationship, or whether they are recently single or have been looking for the right person for a while. I also work with clients who are exploring open relationships or polyamorous and multiple partner relationships.
Counselling, Therapy and Psychotherapy are also fairly interchangeable. Essentially they all mean talking to someone trained and qualified to support you with your worries and difficulties.
Psychosexual or sex therapy tends to focus more on the physical aspects of your relationship, including sexual dysfunctions such as erectile issues, pain on penetration, desire, and worries about arousal. It also allows a space to explore issues around gender and sexual diversity, as well as societal and familial messages around sex and sexuality. However talking about sex and intimacy is an important part of all relationship counselling.
I am already seeing an individual therapist. Can I come for couples counselling too?
Yes, I see many clients where one or both partners are also seeing their own individual therapists. This can be a beneficial way of accessing further support outside the relationship and deepening your self awareness.
I am unable to see the same clients for both couples counselling and individual counselling simultaneously. If you would like some additional individual therapy alongside your couple work with me, I would be happy to recommend a different therapist who you can see for those individual sessions.
My partner wants to come for couples therapy but I’m not sure. Will you side with them? Will you tell me that I’m wrong?
It’s understandable to have reservations about coming for counselling and it takes many clients a long time before deciding to come to their first session. I encourage you to ask whatever questions you need, and share your worries about counselling with me.
However my focus is on your relationship, rather than taking sides. I won’t favour one of you over the other, and I will work hard to make sure that there is a balance in our work where both of your voices are heard.
I won’t tell you or your partner that you are wrong, but I might challenge you occasionally, and help you both to think creatively about how you can communicate and behave differently with each other.
Can you fix our relationship? Or will you encourage us to break up?
I don’t believe that there is ever a ‘quick fix’ to relationship problems, and I can’t promise to wave a magic wand and to make things better. However I can support you in exploring your difficulties, and through talking and thinking through things together, you may find that you aren’t broken after all… I find the clients that make the most progress are the ones who are dedicated to making time for their relationship in between sessions, which may include completing homework tasks, prioritising quality time for each other, or open communication exercises.
I don’t encourage clients to break up. But I don’t have an agenda to keep you together either. My focus is on supporting you to deepen your understanding of your relationship dynamic and to make the best decisions for your own personal circumstances.
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